The No Plan Plan

Dallas Latos, the wife of Cincinnati Reds pitcher Mat Latos (And one of my 3 MLB Wives You Should Be Following on Twitter from my article in The Hudsucker this past May), wrote this very wise blog a few months ago but I just stumbled upon it recently and wanted to share especially with Thanksgiving coming up.

It especially speaks to me, and friends have given me the same insight but sometimes I just need to be reminded. I’m 25 with a college degree and a pretty damn good resume (IMO), but still living at home and constantly being rejected when trying to go for my dream job. People who know me well know that I have been tough on myself for not being where I’ve “planned” to be. I look too much at other family members, old classmates and colleagues, and my peers and all the awesome things they’ve accomplished and I just kill my soul when I beg the question “Why haven’t those things happened to me yet?” But in reality, there are other people who are in the same position I am, and perhaps others that aren’t so fortunate.

As much as I fall into my dark moments of self-doubt, I have to remember to keep going and in the meantime, be grateful for what I do have and enjoy this thrill ride called life. This is my path and even if society doesn’t think it’s acceptable, I have to accept it and I have to keep working hard to make good things happen. Maybe my life will go in a different direction from where I’ve been wanting it to go. Maybe I will make the decision to go to grad school. Maybe I will embark on a different career path. Maybe I will just go ahead and start my own company instead of trying to get hired somewhere. Maybe I will choose love. Maybe I will start a family. These are all things that I am unsure about and honestly, I’m terrified about them because my mind and heart has been so focused on meeting certain goals only. But if life were to throw me these curveballs sooner or later than my expectations, challenge accepted.

For both you and I: Don’t bring yourself down just because it seems like everyone else your age already has their Master’s degree, a cool job that pays six figures, and a happy long-term relationship. You’ll have that special something in your life too if you work hard for it, and it’s just a matter of time. It’s a depressing and sobering thought that nobody knows when their time on Earth will be up, but that’s why we need to stop driving ourselves insane with not fulfilling these “plans” and hating that we haven’t reached certain points and just take it day-by-day. Make the most out of what you have in the now and you’ll be rewarded.

Anyway, totally do read Dallas’ post. 🙂

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Remember when you were in high school and you thought you had your whole life planned out? Maybe you didn’t exactly have a plan but you thought that upon graduation, you would either start working or pursue further education. At some point soon after that, you would have a real career- an adult job that allowed you to pay all of your own bills and eat cookies for breakfast. Once you figured out what your adult job was going to be, you would probably find a significant other. Hopefully, you would find “the one” and one day you two would get married. Soon after finding the person you would love for better or for worse, you would start a family and BINGO!- you won the life game.

I won’t be ignorant enough to assume that this was everyone’s personal goal or thought process (as it wasn’t exactly mine) but no…

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2 thoughts on “The No Plan Plan

  1. Hey Karen, just discovered your blog! THANK you for this article, I really needed it. I am 20 somethin’ too, and finally getting better after a few years ill health. While my friends were off to uni, I got ill – I felt like I was missing out on the fun. Now I’m on the mend, lots of my age group are back from uni and their lives now seem so..’normal’! Like, just job searching. So I now realise my ‘life path’ is ok – illness makes you decide to do every fun thing you’ve been meaning to do.

    Go do whatever job or adventure today, this moment. You’re in charge of the steering wheel.
    Leanne oxo


    1. Hi Leanne! Thank you for your encouragement and for offering your perspective. I’m glad you are feeling better. 🙂 Your possibilities are endless, but remember the now – live in and love the moment! I wish you all the best! ❤


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